“I’m going to be a whore all my life”: the secrets of an erotic nude model and inclusive sex worker

Gabriela was a teaching assistant at the same university where theater teachers were studying when she made that trip that changed everything. She was not a traditional teaching assistant: her job consisted of undressing in classrooms and to display the folds of his body for the observation of cartoonists, sculptors and sculptors.

“It was not a sexual fact but an artistic one,” she explains to Infobae now, while having a green juice “detox” for breakfast in his Recoleta department. At least that’s how it was until that trip where she posed professionally for a sculptor with whom she later had sex.

Gabriela is 35 years old and defines herself as an erotic nude model and sex worker (Photo courtesy Jorge Badillo)

– And what changed after that trip?

– When I went to charge for having posed, his secretary paid me about 20 times more than we had agreed. When I told my friends they told me “But he treated you like a prostitute”, And that did not offend me at all, on the contrary, it opened another channel for me.

Gabriela is “Gabi Erotica”, 35 years old, theater and puppet teacher, nude model and, in her words, “sex worker” or “whore”. That is now his avatar although he says that during the 8 years he has been in the field he had different “More expensive”.

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In the last 8 years he used different masks (Photo: courtesy Victoria Chávez)

It was “Gina la Cochina”, it was “Fer” and now it’s this performer eroticism born in General Roca, Río Negro, which He decided to come out of the closet, give an interview in a mass media for the first time and stop hiding what he does, especially since one of the parts of his work that he is most passionate about is taboo: the sexuality of people with disabilities.

“That’s how I became a whore”

Before being selected in a casting and becoming a nude model at the Instituto Universitario Patagónico de Artes -the public university of the arts in Río Negro-, Gabriela worked in an ice cream parlor, was a babysitter, gave theater classes, was a cleaning employee and a caregiver. of a lady with multiple sclerosis.

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“I think I was a whore since I was born,” he says (Photo: courtesy Freddy Villareal)

“I still think I was a whore since I was born”She smiles with her subdued tone of voice and a certain shyness: “I remember that at 16 we went with a friend to work as a cleaning lady at a cabaret and in the upstairs rooms there were a lot of girls’ clothes. We began to try on the boots, to pose in the mirrors, we were already playing with the idea that that could be us ”.

Posing and leaving his body only on passive display was quickly left to him, boy. This is how he tells it on his website, work and art of his community manager: “I had to show myself as an almost virginal muse so as not to generate any sexual or erotic impulse, so people were not confused with my nudity. Over time I realized that this sexual tension was latent and to deny what happened in those sets was to deny my own essence “.

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Your rate starts at $ 100

He was 24 years old, his pay stub still showed that he was working at the university when he started earning money as receptionist: “I had a group of friends who were engaged in sex work in an apartment. So, in the beginning, I only worked answering the phone, taking shifts and bringing them condoms, ”she says, adjusting her bubblegum pink hair.

What followed was that journey in which the sculptor paid him more than what they had agreed to. At 26, when he returned and while he continued teaching theater and puppetry classes, began offering sex in exchange for money. “For me it was normal, it was not a before and after. I did see that the rest of society found it shocking, that’s why I rarely spoke about it publicly ”.

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His position is that prostitution is work (Photo: courtesy Juan Grosso)

Gabriela says and repeats “sex work” and, in her mouth, the word “work” is not a coincidence. Although there are those who maintain that prostitution is always a form of exploitation, she assures that she chose and chooses what she does and that, unlike what happens to many people, she loves her job and is proud of what it brings. Its differential – he continues – is not to offer sex “stick and to the bag”, like porn, but “Generate affective sex ties with clients.”

“I believe that I have a very great sensitivity and I connect quickly with other human beings from sexual intimacy. I like to generate situations of sexual tension with strangers and, at the same time, create that affective connection ”, he says.

“Many times clients come with complex problems, whether of their bodies, because they have erection difficulties or with the size of their genitals, or emotional problems because, for example, a friend died. That connection is key. The other time I asked a client if he could describe to me how our meeting had been and he replied: ‘Spiritual'”.

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One of the parts that he is passionate about is his work with people with disabilities (Photo: courtesy Juan Grosso)

At the beginning, his only relationship with people with disabilities had been what he had seen in the Neuquén cabaret where he had started: “None of the sex workers wanted to serve them. Or if they attended them, they charged them much more “. Until she became independent and placed an ad that said: “Sex professional offered for sensitive men.”

He was referring to men who had, for example, “erection problems and seek to eroticize their bodies in other ways, size traumas or want to try practices that they cannot propose to their wives,” he enumerates. What happened, however, is that men with disabilities began to call her.

This is how she began to hang out with a young man who has cerebral palsy and is mobilized in a wheelchair. “There’s a lot taboo in society regarding the sexuality of people with disabilities. They are generally infantilized, they are thought of as if they were children, then their sexuality is erased “. Or, when it exists, “it is thought that they have to be downloaded. An affective sex exchange is not the same as a discharge ”.

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Gabriela says that her parents are proud of their work (Photo: courtesy Juan Grosso)

It was the young man’s mother who hired her more than 2 years ago and “we have seen with her the evolution she has had from that stimulation. He hardly used his left hand and began to grasp the remote control, the cell phone. Clear, It is not the same stimulation by grabbing a ball than by grabbing a tit ”.

What he remarks is that, when you think about the rights of people with disabilities, you think – in the best of cases – about non-discrimination, on sidewalks without craters, on ramps: never in the right to full sexuality.

Gabriela says that many sex workers do not agree to work with them more than anything else, for ignorance: “If the person is in a wheelchair they think ‘how am I going to lift this body?’, Or ‘how am I going to understand him?’, If he has speech difficulties. This is part of cHow society views people with disabilities: sometimes with pain, others with disgust, never from sexual attraction ”.

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Says she always tries to be an inclusive sex worker

Many times, “a person who is in a wheelchair has to drag during sex, why is that a frowned upon scene? What I love about having sex with a person with a disability is that teaches me other ways to move, of thinking the body. I don’t know if I’m going to crawl but at least see from what place I can connect with that body ”.

It is not that I only work with people with disabilities, on the contrary. But nevertheless “I always think about how to be an inclusive sex worker. I make my ads on Instagram with subtitles and with audio thinking that a blind or deaf person will get the same message. Now that I moved to Buenos Aires, I looked for an apartment without stairs in case a client in a wheelchair had to enter ”.

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Now he decided to come out of the closet for the first time (Photo: courtesy Jorge Badillo)

Because of the value that he thinks this has that he does is that now he decided come out of the closet. “I’ve seen myself working and thought ‘why keep hiding it?’ His mother -smiles- realized it as soon as it started, so she went from “I’m going to keep loving you the same but I don’t want to know anything else” to this:

“Today my parents are very proud of me and my work, because they know where I work and how I feel.”

Orgasms: ¿faking or not pretending?

At least with the naked eye, Gabriela, is outside the stereotype: it does not have silicones, it is not voluptuous, it does not work at night. His days start early with a bike ride. “I relax first, and I usually work between three or four clients a day. It may also be that he makes one solo and video calls ”.

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“Do you fake orgasms?” Is the million dollar question (Photo: courtesy Jorge Badillo) (JorgeBadillo /)

The sex affective I find that he proposes are not necessarily “phallocentric” but they start with a moment of breathing aware. “It is the way to lower a change of everything that comes from outside. Then I continue with an erotic massage that begins with one hand and addresses the entire body. I am interested in working from a more sensory place and observing what happens to that body. I think that this corporal comes from my training as a theater teacher ”.

Fake orgasms? “I, at least, don’t pretend. I have orgasms depending on the situation and what happens with the client. Sometimes an orgasm is not happening but something beautiful is happening too, such as the exchange between two naked people in a bed. Seeing another person naked, how the light hits them, I find it fascinating. “

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She makes discounts for people with disabilities (Photo: courtesy Nadia Preidun)

Its rate starts at $ 100 per hour, and offers a 15% discount for people with disabilities. He is not entirely clear how much he can earn in a month, but he does have an answer that simplifies it: “What I’m interested in saying is that thanks to sex work I have my own car and my own house.”

She also has a photographer, a website and a journalist who manages her image on her social networks, even after having spent two difficult years due to the pandemic: the two years in which Gabriela dedicated herself to bathing men with chinstraps in a hotel accommodation in General Roca without having sex afterwards.

He is writing a guide “for those who want to start doing this job without breaking in the attempt, because it is not a simple job and you need to arm yourself ”. And says no she does not consider herself a feminist. Their explanation is that “most feminists believe that prostitution must be abolished,” which would leave them in a more insecure and clandestine situation.

“Others are in a gray: they ban us sex workers but say they have contradictions with the client, the man who consumes prostitution. That gray does not serve us, after all, When you need to call someone because something ugly happened to you, you need to cry or you felt discriminated against, we are not on the same side ”.

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Doesn’t consider herself a feminist

That is, perhaps, one of the great differences between her and those who believe that prostitution is always the place from which any woman wants to escape.

“It’s very interesting because I think whore one is alwaysIt’s just that sometimes we come out of the closet and other times we don’t, ”says Gabriela, who, like any neighbor’s daughter, is in a hurry because she has a turn with the dentist.

“Probably in the future I will use my erotic capital in another way. Today I work on a bed but I would like to work on the floor, also give talks, write books, do podcasts about sex work. Yes, I think I’m going to be a whore all my life. “

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